I should start by telling you that I have a younger sister and have always thought of myself as having the typical first-born personality traits. But I must say, part of me envies the carefree stereotypical traits of a younger child.
This was why I couldn't decide if I was flattered or insulted. I wasn't sure which way I preferred to be viewed. The first-born (insulted) part of me immediately felt defensive and thought - maybe I am not being that attentive of a hostess, maybe this breakfast doesn't seem very well planned or put together, maybe I don't seem organized...
And then a flattered feeling came over me and thought - Wow I am pulling this off so well that I actually seem relaxed and carefree. I actually appear to be the second born. I must be amazing - lol!
I just came across this article about birth order - Huffington Post - How Birth Order Affects Personality and I started thinking how my two boys fit into the birth order stereotypes...
My older son is the organized, planner. He is a rule follower and even a little bossy at times. He wakes up early almost every day; even on weekends. He needs to know everything and likes to be in control. He is sweet and polite and likes to do things the right way.
(My older son - getting the kite ready to fly.)
(My younger son - running around after the kite)
That is just one example of the many times both boys have demonstrated their birth order.
I know deep down inside that I have a first-born personality even though I may be able to fool some people some of the time. First of all, the fact that I had to analyze the whole conversation from years ago speaks volumes! And since that day, I have managed to pull off some pretty involved school events, proving my first born status to my friend - LOL. Seriously though, I know if I don't have a plan for almost everything I do, I get pretty stressed out. For example, it took months for me to decide to get a dog. I researched breeds, interviewed breeders, got recommendations from many friends and didn't proceed until I had every question answered and every supply purchased. My younger sister on the other hand, announced one day that she might get a dog and a couple days later - she had one.
I am not saying that I don't envy the relaxed attitude of a second born child, I just know where I fit in. Yet now that I am in the midst of working on another school event scheduled for the spring, I am hoping I can channel just a little bit of of my younger sister's second child mellow attitude and not be so stressed out!
Does your personality reflect your birth order?
What about your kids?